Emily Watson at Raydens is extremely good with manipulatively charming people - to cite the friend who has used her, "she sees through them like tissue paper". She has expertise in high worth financial settlements and child arrangements orders and my friend was very, very relieved to have her on side. She's listed in the Legal 500 and Chambers & Partners as especially expert in abuse cases, and those with complex financial considerations.
She was recommended to me for that friend, who had a horrible situation with her husband and did a phenomenal job. (The person who recommended her is a family law barrister.)
I'm so sorry you're in this situation. The pain and stress must be immense. You're doing the right thing, and try to take care of yourself.
Edited to say: I just realised this is a 'zombie' thread, and from a few years ago now. I hope so much things are better for you, and you secured the help you needed and deserved to have.