Postby Thirdchild » Mon Aug 06, 2018 12:44 pm
Hello Everyone
I'd love some advice.
I am a 35 mum of 2 boys under 4. I’ve always liked the idea of 3 kids but over the past couple of months, I have really wanted it. Now seems like the perfect time for us, work wise and life wise, if we were to ever take the plunge. But my husband isn’t sure about having 3 kids.
We had our kids close in age and it’s just starting to get easier after 2 years of craziness. He was the baby of three in his family and while he had a lovely upbringing, he just felt there was never enough time for everyone. Also with the added complication a third brings- changing cars, extra costs, being outnumbered, he’s not that keen. Honestly I can see where he’s coming from and logically it makes sense when our lives are working well and we are comfortable at the moment but I still feel there is someone missing around the kitchen table. Head vs heart if you will.
Has anyone had this in their relationship? How do you get round it as someone will have to compromise and what do I do if that someone has to be me?