First pregnancy, completely overwhelmed

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GMC
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Re: First pregnancy, completely overwhelmed

Postby GMC » Mon Nov 23, 2020 4:59 pm

Hello,
Congratulations on your pregnancy and I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling so overwhelmed. The following info might be helpful to you.
I delivered my second baby at Kingston Hospital and would highly recommend them. I was very anxious about the delivery, though for different reasons. I was referred to ‘The Emerald Team’ who are a specialist midwifery team who look after women who have a higher level of need during their pregnancy. I saw the same two lovely midwives for all my antenatal appointments. The continuity massively helped with my anxiety. I saw their Consultant Obstetric Doctor during this time to discuss my birth plan. Her name is Miss Florence Wilcock. She is a high profile advocate for women to be given more and better birth choices. Google “ miss florence wilcock kingston hospital“ and click on the first result to see her profile on the Kingston Hospital website.
I reckon a booking appointment with Emerald Team then a conversation with her could really help. What you need is evidence-based information about your options, so you can make an informed decision about your mode of delivery.
Good luck!
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Postby AppleCrumble » Tue Nov 24, 2020 2:58 pm

Congratulations!!! I highly recommend the Positive Birth Company- there are free videos on youtube, so you could get a feel for it first. It’s about £40 I think but the best £40 I’ve probably ever spent.

It’s hypnobirthing - but also all the science which I think helps you to have a much greater understanding of what is happening to your body. As well as learning how to make informed decisions for your birth.

I honestly cannot recommend it enough- the videos are relaxing - you get a lot of content to prepare you, as well as all the breathing techniques etc as well.

I really hope you feel a little less worried with all the fantastic advice offered. Best of luck xx
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Beancounter
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Re: First pregnancy, completely overwhelmed

Postby Beancounter » Wed Nov 25, 2020 4:12 pm

It's a pity that your mother should have scared you like that and spoiled what should be a lovely time of pregnancy.  Your body isn't her body and your experience will be unique to you and the midwifery staff know their onions.  Take whatever help is offered that works for you - loads of suggestions above.  

Do bear in mind what my mother told me - a C section, while common, is a serious operation.  You don't need to be Superwoman afterwards.  Let your body heal.

Good luck - and the babe will turn up regardless of whatever you do.  Lots of cuddles to look forward to!
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Postby KristinHayward » Sat Nov 28, 2020 1:02 pm

Hi and first of all well done for reaching out. Pregnancy can be so overwhelming for so many reasons and Covid has certainly added a big, fat, extra layer of stress. You're not alone and it is possible to feel different!

The other replies have already said what I know too: hypnobirthing is definitely the way forward and you may also find that a 1-1 hypnotherapy session is very useful to eliminate your anxiety - this will ensure the best foundation for hypnobirthing to work well.

I'm a hypnotherapist specialising in fertility, pregnancy and birth for the past 20 years, teaching hypnobirthing to countless couples with amazing results - I'd love to tell you a bit about the support I can provide, you're welcome to call me (07963 046456) when you have a moment.

Please also come to my free hypnobirthing Zoom sessions - 30mins of relaxation, stress release and important time with your baby. These sessions (no cost) have provided many women/couples with a strong anchor during lockdown and, I'm delighted to say, have really helped them feel less anxious, alone and scared of birth.

Next Zoom sessions are on Wed 9th Dec ... book your free place on www.thehypnobirthingexperts.com homepage, email info@thehypnobirthingexperts.com or simply call me on 07963 046456.

In the meantime focus on 1 day at a time, look for the positives, however small they may seem. If you fill your head with positives then there's less space for the negatives. You can train your mind to connect to the positives and that's so beneficial for your baby's wellbeing too.

I'd love to help and know that hypno techniques can make all the difference. It's important to learn hypnobirthing from a qualified hypnotherapist, especially if you're feeling anxious. The deep relaxation or trance can trigger emotions (known as abreactions) and it's important to know how to release these correctly, possibly with 1-1 hypnotherapy.

Wishing you all the best and hope we can connect online (or in person after lockdown!)
Kristin x
www.thehypnobirthingexperts.com
07963 046456
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DeirdreKury
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Re: First pregnancy, completely overwhelmed

Postby DeirdreKury » Mon Nov 30, 2020 9:39 am

Congratulations! Pregnancy is a real rollercoaster of emotions! I know it’s not quite what you were asking, but if it’s not something you already know about, you might like to look at hypnobirthing to help with the general anxiety around pregnancy and birth. I found it really helped with mine. I know it’s probably more aimed at natural birth, but a friend of mine who had two c-sections still found it really useful generally during the pregnancy and keeping calm in the run up to the c-section which as you say is no walk in the park either. I saw Gemma Morriss at Happy Birthday Baby (it won’t let me post the link for some reason) and thought she was fab. Good luck x
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Postby aevinnoymksed » Fri Aug 27, 2021 9:50 am

A friend of mine recently had an elective c section on the NHS. She has a history of (manageable but medicated) anxiety but more to the point had had around 5 miscarriages and a TFMR which required her to deliver at 16/17 weeks.  I think it was enough for the staff that this baby was beyond precious given the history and she wanted to go the route with the fewest variables and safest for the baby (which I understand there is research to support being c section, microbiome benefits excluded).
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Postby Amelainn » Sun Oct 24, 2021 6:46 pm

How was your delivery. I have the same panic right now before giving birth.
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