Postby number28 » Mon Feb 27, 2023 6:33 am
That punishment is absolutely inappropriate for a child. It is deliberate humiliation. What beneficial effect can this possibly have on any child’s behaviour? ‘Discipline’ in schools is supposed to have the intention of guiding and improving the child’s behaviour, not destroying their self-esteem and willingness to engage in education.
I think you need to speak with your child in detail about what they think has been happening in class, and then with your child’s teacher, to compare the pictures. And possibly go back to your child again with this perspective, to get more information from them.
Children are more likely to misunderstand what is expected of them than to deliberately paint a picture of their own innocence. They are not all ‘Artful Dodgers’. At 9 years old they do not have the same frontal lobe development or executive skills as an adult, so of course they are likely to see things from their own perspective. It is the teacher’s responsibility to ensure a child understands what is expected of them, and also to understand that different kids will react differently to the way a teacher teaches and disciplines. I hope your school has progressed past a Dickensian understanding of child development.
Seek to understand what the teacher is seeing, but you are your child’s advocate and the person who knows them best. Approach the situation as the adult who is trying to help both your child and the school, but I believe you will regret not supporting your child more than you will regret asking the school what is going on. Kids who feel unsupported by their main carers can end up with all sorts of psychosocial/emotional/behavioural problems.
If what is happening in class is outside your child’s normal behaviour, there is likely to be a reason. This could be anything from a personality clash with the teacher (which is not your kid’s fault - they are not the adult in the room), to an undiagnosed leaning difficulty (eg ADHD, ASD) or medical diagnosis, or your child responding to other issues such as bullying by other kids, or any stressors at home, the list goes on.
Humiliating a child in front of the class risks making them the scapegoat for the teacher and other kids, and setting them up to be bullied in future.