Husband has visited escort- advice please

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sw11_
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Postby sw11_ » Sat Jul 04, 2015 9:34 pm

It's a very different post to the vile one in the Daily Mail. It's kind of complimentary:

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/women/sex/on ... emind.html
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Postby LuluDaffodil » Tue Jul 07, 2015 1:57 pm

Very nice article.
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Postby SarahR90 » Wed Feb 03, 2016 3:55 pm

I am so sorry to hear..It's hard I have had the same problem with my husband but instead of finishing it we sat down picked up all the broken pieces put them back together and we are now getting on for our 20th anniversary... You need to sit down with him and find out the truth and work from there :D
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Postby TerryJones91 » Wed Feb 03, 2016 4:37 pm

From a mans point of view he may not see it as cheating and just sex.. You got to look at it as if you have two kids maybe you are getting less time in the bedroom department thus he is finding new ways to keep himself sexually active without losing any love for you.. It may sound stupid but it is highly possible and it isn't the first time this has happened :roll:
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Postby Lauren99 » Thu Feb 04, 2016 4:01 pm

Wow I am so sorry to hear, It must be hard but you need to do what's best for you and of course your kids :D
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Postby Lauren99 » Thu Feb 04, 2016 4:01 pm

Wow I am so sorry to hear, It must be hard but you need to do what's best for you and of course your kids :D
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Postby NannyJoy » Sun Feb 07, 2016 1:40 pm

You can't trust people who can't trust themselves- I doubt there's a counsellor on earth able to stimulate a response from your husband comparable to the thrill of paid for sexual services.
"Getting forensic" sounds like a bitter, tedious waste of time.
People pay a cleaner when they can't be bothered to clean their house themselves- even though the skill set's hardly complex!
Have a good hard think about your position, your tolerances and your alternative prospects, then decide. Some women have been putting up and shutting up since the dawn of time, others have been single parenting.
There's likely no easy/right option....so be true to yourself and accept whichever associated challenges graciously.
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Postby juliantenniscoach » Sun Feb 07, 2016 9:33 pm

@Nannyjoy. That is one of the best posts I've read here.
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Postby Astolat » Sat Feb 13, 2016 12:15 pm

I don't see why the choice is put up and shut up or lone parent?

I have a very low opinion of any man who exploits sex workers but surely even they are capable of either choosing to control themselves or co parenting following a divorce.
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Postby Roxron » Sun Feb 14, 2016 8:03 am

This may just be a bit too out there but surely when it comes to sex we should at least consider that individuals are likely to have different desires? I don't just mean how often we like it, although that's important too, but in what style.
I'm not forgiving anyone who strays but don't want to judge them straight away either. Sex can be a far more vital part of daily life for one person than it is for another. If one partner in a relationship chooses something a little '50 shades' but the other partner would rather not indulge should the first miss out? And if after the routine of life kicks in to a previously rampant relationship, and twice a day is now twice a month, one partner isn't happy to just settle for that and still needs the physical satisfaction, couldn't they find that elsewhere?
We're not all cut from the same cloth and in most aspects of life that's what makes us interesting and makes our relationships work. Sadly with sex though to be different can drive you apart and it's up to us whether we let it or instead try and understand it.
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Postby supergirl » Sun Feb 14, 2016 10:04 am

@Roxron: the difference between human kind and animal is our ability to control our desire/emotions and to remember the past so we can forward think. It s the same with sex. We re not animal, we should be able to control ourselves (thats what we teach our kids) and live in a RESPECTFUL relationship.
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Postby verounan » Fri Feb 10, 2017 3:53 pm

@supergirl: I agree with you. If you can't control yourself when having sex, you're nowhere far from being an animal. I believe sex is not a necessity but rather a decision for both of you and your partner. If a person thinks that it's okay for a husband to sleep with an escort, then you're the one that has a problem. :mrgreen:
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