Advice / sympathy / support please! Gently please, I'm feeling fragile on this subject.
I'm mid 40's with 2 young children, and am separated and single and am feeling like a social pariah. I am very aware that it might well be me, that I just don't gel with people, but I've never had a problem making friends before and have a fair few. But I have found since I've been separated that I am not invited to any group social events, dinner parties, drinks, etc. I still manage to organise occasional meetups with a girlfriend here or there for drinks or cinema, but all my close girlfriends are married and have children and are rarely available on Friday or Saturday nights, so the weekends I don't have my children when they're at their Dad's, I'm literally all on my own, from Friday afternoon through Sunday night. And I'm feeling monstrously excluded and isolated and becoming withdrawn and depressed within myself, and even starting to feel angry with life and people. (Though n.b. I honestly believe this isn't showing, and that no one would have a clue I'm depressed, as people always tell me I'm very calm and upbeat) I'm particularly finding being in the school playground very painful, hearing about people's fun social weekends, and family activities. And it's the same on the weekends I have my children. The 3 of us are never invited to anything at the weekend, Sunday lunches with other families or walks in woods or whatever all you 'complete' families do. I manage to sometimes organise playdates for the kids with a friend, and we can always find things to do as we live in London, so it's impossible to be bored, but we're still excluded. (And my children are lovely and reasonably popular, so it's not that they don't have friends or aren't well liked.)
I am painfully aware that it may well be me, that people don't want to spend time with me, and that only adds to the misery. But I feel it's because people can't / don't want, to fit a single woman in to the mix of a group, that the dynamic is off when you're not part of a couple in a group. Any views? Is it just me??! Is there anyone else experiencing this? What can I do??!
And I do go out to things, I'm not just sitting at home wallowing or being unproactive. I go out and do things on my own, cinema, theatre, exhibitions, etc, and I go to some meetup group events, but that's not the same as being invited to a dinner party to hang out for an evening and discuss life with a group of friends.
And part 2, - I'm not a knock out, but I'm attractive enough, people are always asking me how come I'm single, but I'm single not because I'm not attractive, but because I never meet anyone!!! So men, or women, any good suggestions on where to meet nice, straightforward, available men?!
Any thoughts / advice / suggestions very gratefully received, thank you.