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My mother who is in her 80s is leaving her controlling husband of several decades. He is currently away and we have moved her clothes and possessions out of their flat. The police have been notified as it is a situation that may concern them, including setting up a restraining order.
We are attempting to put together a picture of their finances, of which she has been kept wholly unaware.
They co-own a small property - unencumbered - and have some savings, some in accessible accounts which are easily shared, some in building societies in fixed term bonds due to mature later this year or next year. Almost everything is held in joint accounts, although one of the bonds cites him as the primary account holder and her as the secondary or associated account holder.
Can anyone provide information on the following please?
- Is she able to break the fixed-term bonds with the building societies? We understand we can have a 'marital dispute' flag placed on the account which prevents either party from accessing it on maturity until there is a legal agreement to do so. However, we would much prefer to cash it in now as this will help to fund her future life, including a place to live. We have called one building society who say that they would only allow the bond to be broken under exceptional circumstances, which we feel these are; however, the person at the end of the phone was not sure. Are there particular terms we can cite to push for this?
- Should she take legal advice? She doesn't have a lot of money and we don't want to spend unnecessarily what she may need later on.
- Is there any reason why she should get divorced rather than just separated? If so, should she initiate divorce proceedings and if so when? She is understandably very stressed and there are a lot of moving parts that she needs to deal with in person, so she has not been able to give this matter much thought as yet. However, if she were presented with a compelling reason that could help make the decision for her.
Practical advice on the legal and financial aspects would be hugely valued and time is of the essence as he returns in 1-2 weeks. Many thanks