Baby Sleep Consultant

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BabyMagic
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby BabyMagic » Tue May 14, 2013 2:36 pm

Dear CarolMae,

I agree with you, no parent should have to wait until 6 months for a good night's sleep. However, if you are trained in infant development and paediatric psychology (which I assume you are as a sleep consultant, I know my post-grad focused a lot on this), then you know well, that a 7 week old baby CANNOT be 'trained' like an automaton, and that without knowing a full medical and birth history, random pieces of advice are unwise and can be dangerous.
However, you may not have carried on reading my post, in which I said, that although a baby of this age cannot be 'trained' as such, excellent sleep hygiene practices can be put in place from birth onwards, and self-soothing encouraged.
As I have a degree, a post-graduate degree and so far 3 years of medical training as a doctor, with a heavy emphasis on paediatrics, I personally, don't like to give specific developmental advice without at least speaking to the mum personally.
At 7 weeks, if medical and developmental issues have been expertly ruled out, then routine adjustment, empathy, sleep hygiene and many, many techniques can be employed to help, but there is no such thing as 'one size fits all'. The Gina Fords of the world may make a bundle from it, but if there really was such an easy way of sorting sleep issues a)The Nobel prize would be handed out and b)No parent would ever need any help.
I applaud your convictions and am sure you have many, many success stories. I'm just a bit more tentative to give advice without getting to know a family better, and I'm always happy to take a call or two gratis, if it makes a mum/dad/carer feel better.
All the best with your current sleep work, and if you'd like any links to empirical/clinical evidence, or evidence-based reports on infant sleep practice and disorders, feel free to email me. I've just been working in the sleep clinic at St.George's so have a lot of expert advice that I have access to, that is factually based rather than anecdoctal.
Either way, thanks for the response.
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby BabyMagic » Tue May 14, 2013 2:43 pm

p.s. although the dummy habit can be hard to break after 6 months, if it hasn't been removed earlier, current best medical practice in the UK and USA, has found that there is a solid link between use of a pacifier (dummy) after the age of 4 weeks, until 6 moths of age, and the lowering of SIDS risk. It's all about stimulation awareness, feedback, neuro-respiratory response etc. etc.
So if a mum/dad/carer wants to use a dummy, or a baby can find their thumb, I personally never discourage it. In a risk-benefit ration, before the age of 6 months, the benefit definitely outweighs any annoying (to the adult) need to break the habit later on (which in a 6mo is pretty short term anyway). It's all about empowering parental choice and providing the information to enable this.
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby Carol Mae » Tue May 14, 2013 2:51 pm

Hi Sophie
Think we've gone off the subject a bit here, l came on to respond to a mum who needs a bit of tweaking here and there because predominantly that's all sleep issues are, some bad habits introduced by sleep deprived parents or some wrong guidance from health officials. It very rarely is down to other factors, even babies suffering from reflux can still be sleeping through without aid.
My degree is indeed in psychology, specializing in developmental psychology and some further education in psychotherapy however it pales in comparison to all of the hands on experience I've gained over the past 20 years working with little ones.
All the best
Carol
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby BabyMagic » Tue May 14, 2013 3:27 pm

Indeedy. I only nannied fifteen years myself (not counting the last few helping out). I tend to trust health official advice in the first instance anyway, usually they are medically trained and it's all well vetted NHS policy and evidence based. Noone is infallible though! There's room for everyone, and the more friendly, flexible and objective helpers around to get parents and children a good night's sleep the bettet, I say, free, paid, whatever. Sleep is invaluable!
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby jo jo » Thu May 16, 2013 1:18 am

Jo tantum all the way. my sister in law had her and worked miracles. however we just bought her book - baby secrets and it worked a treat - there are routines and examples. she also offers help on her website. if you type in Jo tantum routine 3 into Google that was the routine we used. hope this helps.
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby falconmum » Tue May 21, 2013 2:56 pm

Would it be very different to train a 18month old ? We did sleep training(self administered) when my son was 10 months and then again at 13 months . He seems to have regressed again at 18 months ...At this stage, letting him cry it out is a lot more difficult since he can talk and shout for Mamma....
What is the best way to get him back on track ? :cry:

A very tired mum ...
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby Annie.S » Tue May 21, 2013 3:27 pm

Hi there,

Please have a look at our website www.infantsleepconsultant.co.uk and get in touch if you have. We offer a variety of tailor made sleep packages and am sure we will be able to get your little ones sleeping through in no time!

Best wishes,
Annie
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby Annie.S » Tue May 21, 2013 3:34 pm

Offering expert advice for a good night's sleep, Infant Sleep Consultant offers help with your child from newborn to twelve years. We do not have a "one solution fits all" approach as we know every child is different but work with you to create a tailor made plan that you can manage and one which takes into account the needs of the child and expectations of each family. Please find us on http://www.infantsleepconsultant.co.uk or call 07950320475. We are all parents so fully understand and empathise with the demands and challenges of parenthood and our expertise will ease the path for you....we've been there, we get it!


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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby katkin2 » Tue May 21, 2013 10:45 pm

All this new fangled sleep consultant stuff is getting on my nerves! I gave my 'poor sleeper' (although isn't that a historical fact for babies) closeness and security when she point blank refused (through hysterical crying and non-stop waking) to sleep by herself for the first 4 months of life. Each baby is different and it is unfair to expect the same of each one. I read my own baby (which only a mother can do). Years of training or education will never replace this.

I am getting a bit tired of our western society's obsession with strict routines so early in a baby's life and 'perfect sleeping patterns.' I know all about sleep deprived desperation and I do not blame any parent for seeking help but I think we have lost sight of what is normal for a baby. Why should a baby sleep through the night at 3 months? Why should a baby want to sleep alone when they can feel their mothers warmth? It is almost as if somehow, along the way, we have begun to breed terrible sleepers. In reality your mum, grandma, great grandma will recall many nights of broken poor sleep. To them this was not abnormal they just had a baby in the house.

I will let my daughter develop by herself and mentally tackle any new sleeping 'problem' as and when they occur, with support from parents/friends/my husband. I know phases pass. I feel proud of myself that my daughter learnt to feel secure enough to eventually sleep in her own cot and manage to get herself to sleep. No training or tweaking just love & an awful lot of patience.
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Postby sw11_ » Wed May 22, 2013 1:59 pm

Just wanted to refer back to my post on this thread. I can't believe it was so simple but given the mentions of swaddling on here i decided to try and buy a different type of swaddling blanket, and wow - it worked from the first night! The type i'd been using originally was rubbish, but the one i bought had extra flaps to tie down the arms and has completely solved our problem. It looks a lot like the miracle swaddle blanket that you can buy on amazon. Hope this helps someone else in my position..
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby katkin2 » Wed May 22, 2013 5:11 pm

That is great you found something so simple and inexpensive that worked for your baby :)
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby Carol Mae » Wed May 22, 2013 9:12 pm

Great news Sw11
Sometimes its just the small tweaks here and there that make all the big differences!!
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby BabyMagic » Fri May 24, 2013 11:18 am

So glad to hear it. Hope you have many nights of blissful sleep!
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby SwallowsandAmazons » Thu May 30, 2013 11:08 pm

I read this article from Psychology Today with interest and thought I'd share this perspective. There are more related reports on baby and particularly toddler sleep patterns at the end of the article. The reports seem to have been put together by a number of experts. Happy reading.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/mor ... evelopment

Another good source of information about bedsharing and baby sleep patterns is www.isisonline.org.uk, put together by the University of Durham, NCT, La Leche and Baby Friendly Initiative.
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Re: Baby Sleep Consultant

Postby VickiScott » Tue Jun 04, 2013 4:28 pm

Hi All,
I can help here too. In appropriate cases I do a one hour phone consultation with follow up, which costs £80-most clients have all the success they need with just that. General, often very simple advice, but its the reassurance you're doing the right thing, and the confidence to be consistent that plays a huge part.
I am a former professional nanny, midwife and consultant to Philips Avent-
I own and run New Baby Company.Starting to do more consultancy work again now my youngest has started nursery.
Our antenatal courses are very informative-we teach about swaddling and self settling, early days (simple) routine and sleeping through the night. Then we have monthly meet ups where clients can pick our brains on all these things afterwards! I'm doing a sleep and routine workshop free of charge for New Baby and Cupcake clients tmrw morning.

www.newbabycompany.com
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