gymgoer wrote:

sask wrote:Aw, hun- I’m sorry this has made you feel so terrible about yourself. Please know that this has NOTHING to do with you and everything about the man’s own issues.

As someone who has suffered with mental health issues myself, I can tell you that partnering with strangers in situations like this can be extremely stressful and distressing for someone dealing with anxiety or Asperger’s.

He probably didn’t know how to express himself acceptably and was highly distressed about the entire idea of having to partner with someone. So yes, he was rude but please understand it’s nothing at all to do with you.

Sask - this is a gym whereby every class requires you to partner with a co gym member at a station , he often attends classes every week. This was not a new situation to him. He is just an incredibly pompous turd as I took him aside the week after to explain that his comments were rude and hurtful - he just pushed me aside and sniggered “go away”

janee wrote:How about, in view of the press reports on sexual abuse and harassment, he was just concerned that he might be accused of something? I am assuming that you are female.

sask wrote:Aw, hun- I’m sorry this has made you feel so terrible about yourself. Please know that this has NOTHING to do with you and everything about the man’s own issues.

As someone who has suffered with mental health issues myself, I can tell you that partnering with strangers in situations like this can be extremely stressful and distressing for someone dealing with anxiety or Asperger’s.

He probably didn’t know how to express himself acceptably and was highly distressed about the entire idea of having to partner with someone. So yes, he was rude but please understand it’s nothing at all to do with you.

Balance wrote:I would say this man might well be sexist, and therefore completely lacking in humanity towards yourself as a female. You might ask the man, with the support of your partner and the class leader, as to why he felt that such a rude response to you was acceptable? He may well have Aspegers or whatever else, but that is his issue and one that he needs to contain better within himself as his response to you was very aggressive.

Balance wrote:I would say this man might well be sexist, and therefore completely lacking in humanity towards yourself as a female. You might ask the man, with the support of your partner and the class leader, as to why he felt that such a rude response to you was acceptable? He may well have Aspegers or whatever else, but that is his issue and one that he needs to contain better within himself as his response to you was very aggressive.