This is all really helpful information. Thank you parents and nannies for all your insights!

Speaking as a nanny, its probably worth mentioning at the interview whether or not you or your partner work from home, or are likely to at some point. A lot of nannies are put off by this, personally it doesn't bother me but it does affect the childrens behaviour with parents around. My current employer works from home and my charge happily waves her off upstairs to work but in other jobs its been a complete disaster for everyone involved!

Hey,
I'm a new nanny. With my first job I wish that I was given clear guide lines on what I could and couldn't spend of activities\crafts etc.

Also house rules- privacy when she can't and can't be in living areas, when its best to use the kitchen. Is all food provided? Is she allowed guests?

Lots of those questions I didn't have answered first and found weekends difficult because I wasn't really welcome in the house.

Apologies, another parent here. I wanted to add a few things that come from personal experience and the experience of close friends:

Be clear about the duties and responsibilities you'd like your nanny to undertake.

Discuss how/when you would like holidays to be taken. With advice from the agency, we agreed with our nanny that she would take half of her annual leave at times that she chose. As we travelled for a month over Christmas every year, the other weeks were taken at our discretion.

Think about bereavement leave - like sick leave, make note of the statutory number of days. Hopefully, it won't come up but if it does, you can always decide at the time if you'd like to give her more than what's been agreed.

The nanny should always have a charged and fully functioning mobile phone with her. The phone must have a current contract or have credit on it so that she can make calls and/or send text messages especially if you are trying to reach her. If voice mail is important to you then you should also detail that.

If you ever need to make any changes to the nanny's duties, responsibilities or hours, write up a new contract and go through it with her. You should also draw up a new contract whenever you increase her salary/hourly rate.

Be clear about whether you're happy for your nanny to smoke at all. II wasn't, so there was to be no smoking at all even when outside and not even outside when our child was asleep. I mention this only because a friend let her nanny smoke in front of the children when they were outside. It then became a problem and she didn't know how to address it. For me, there was to be no smoking because we're not smokers and we also wanted to ensure a good example was being set in front of our child.

If you have hired//are hiring your nanny through an agency they should be able to give you contract templates. If not, then here are a couple that may be of assistance:

MODEL CONTRACTS FOR NANNIES TO BE - Nanny World
https://www.google.com.au/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CB4QFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.nannyworld.co.uk%2Fnanny%2Ffiles%2F2013%2F01%2FNanny-Client-Sample-contract.doc&ei=xyDWU6_TKoLj8AXxlIHIDA&usg=AFQjCNHbrwo6aB046IekIg4hqXFVytUJMw&sig2=k2AwX8r6dAVzG9mJNWYYhg&bvm=bv.71778758,d.dGc

http://www.payefornannies.co.uk/parents/nanny_contracts.htm

Good luck with it all. It can be a minefield but if she's a good nanny, it will be an excellent experience. Our child still adores her nanny, even though it's been years that she left us (as our child was too old for a nanny not for any other reason.)

Totally agree with Mum2Alex. I ended hiring the less experienced of the group based on her interaction with the children at the interview and the sense she clearly had a kind heart.

I figured I could teach her about what I wanted done around the house on the job (I leave notes most mornings but also afford her a lot of respect to be able to make her own judgement calls) but what I couldn't do was teach her to want to be playful, kind and caring to my babies.

And 1.5 years later we have a very happy home and the same nanny.

whilst all those questions are important, I would add that the most valuable thing is to watch your prospective nanny interact with your children

We interviewed one extremely competent Norland nanny who didn't acknowledge the presence of 2 8 month olds crawling at her feet. Instead we employed the less experienced nanny who immediately plonked herself down on the floor and started playing with them, all whilst answering questions about her training and experience. Now that's multitasking!

Good luck!

Our latest Baby Jumble blog post is written by an ex nanny and provides some great perspective on how you can find and keep a nanny who will be a positive addition to your family. I hope that you find it insightful. Best of luck with your search. http://babyjumble.com/blog/

Hi IndyB!
I am a fully qualified professional nanny/maternity nanny currently on maternity leave with 10years of experience.
It is necessary to discuss:
Duties, kitty, expectations with one or more kids, possibility of a future nanny share and agreement on it
Pay, holidays, sick days, bonus, pay on holiday with the family, baby sitting
Car and its use/ work related oyster card

All the best

As a nanny in the past as well as a parent and early years educator, my opinions would be :
Do you expect the nanny to go on holiday with you and ideally set times etc that you wanted them to work, I went on hols once with a family and never again!
They literally expected me to do round the clock care, prepare food for everyone plus guests if anybody came over, everyone's washing and no time off,
How much kitty money do you get to use each week, get the nanny to give you receipts for everything purchased and give extra if they need to buy birthday presents for parties that your child attends, money for travel, will the nanny have use of your car, a nanny car( which I always had) or use of their own in which case you'll need to pay them mileage allowance of 45p per mile at least and maybe offer a bonus to cover wear n tear, insurance as they need to have different insurance, class 1.
What do you expect your nanny to eat for lunch whilst at yours, I've heard of nannies being told they're only allowed a tin of soup!
Where do you want your child to be able to travel..how far, what activities, remember some nannies can be a fountain of knowledge as to what is going on locally...
Sleep routines: any ideas how you want your child to sleep or happy to take advice of an experienced nanny,
What qualifications do they have? Are the paediatric trained? Do they understand child development and how to encourage growth by educational activities, do you mind your kids getting dirty?
Happy to have nanny and child playmates over at yours...it can be quite a solitary job otherwise.
Overtime: what is the parade and don't forget a nanny has a life too and will often have activities planned in her free time so don't expect them to be happy to work late at the drop of a hat.. And show your appreciation as it really does help as I'm sure you would imagine within your work space...and I know it seems petty but when introducingyour nanny to anyone, please don't just say " she's the nanny" and nothing else as it's quite demoralising as though you're a second class citizen...and treat them with respect.
In All my years I've had wonderful relationships with all my nanny jobs, to the point I've been welcomed with open arms by all of the family and treated as a friend, I've even been put in the will of a wonderful family that if anything happened to them they would only want me to bring up their children..what an honour,
Well what more can I say in that I wish you good luck and any questions just ask....

Thank you so much - that is all really helpful!

I know there will inevitably be things that come up - but it's good to try to get as many bases covered as possible up front!

Thanks again!

I am an employer too i am afraid...

Must dos:

- for me knowing where they are - found out once the children were across town by accident when rang nanny to check something.

- expectations around cleaning if you don't want to come home to kitchen written off and toys everywhere. but this goes both ways - we're not especially tidy people, and we reassured our nanny it didn't need to be "perfect". one mum she worked for used to make her count out puzzle pieces and would make a point of checking under the couch for toys everytime she came home. :shock: life is too short.

- that they're expected to look after the children when they are sick. i was a little surprised when one nanny refused.

- how you'll communicate at the end of the day. some people like a written diary of what their small children ate, slept, calpol etc, in my case if you tell my husband he'll never tell me so you need to tell me. Also that doing the handover is a job too, and you don't expect them to throw the baby at you and run out the door... which has also happened. :(

- think carefully for any "firsts" you want to do - first swim etc - as that can be upsetting if your nanny tells you about it when you get home if it's someone important to you. best she knows in advance.

- expectations about manners and discipline- a temp nanny reduced my toddlers to tears (i only know as my cleaner told me) for refusing to let them get down from the table when we'd not yet taught them (age 2 and 1) that they needed to ask. the same temp made fun of them when cried - it was a record short placement.

that's all for me. good luck finding a great nanny!

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Thank you so much for your replies!

Would love to hear from nannies as well -- what do you wish your employer had discussed with you at the beginning?

Thanks so much!

I agree with earlier poster. I'm on to my 4th nanny, so now I know what I want.

At interview/job description stage, don't hold back. I need someone who's happy to cook for the whole family, do washing, collect dry cleaning etc and who works long hours and who is flexible with last minute childcare needs.

If you are honest about it upfront, then it will be easier long term.

Re sick pay, I have 4 paid sick days included in the contract.

Sick days! How many, how much and how you ll pay them etc

Sick days! How many, how much etc