by AbbevilleMummy » Mon Nov 09, 2015 11:22 am
Since this debate started in the national press I have heard a lot of people get put out by the expression 'have it all' and I don't really understand why?
To me, the expression means to be able to not have to make sacrifices once you have kids. Those sacrifices could be in terms of your career but also personal free time, hobbies, exercise, travel etc.
This is why I also believe that to 'have it all', (all at the same time) isn't possible as having kids is all about sacrifice!!
Whether you are male or female for that matter! I know that my husband, whilst he is still working, certainly feels that he has sacrificed himself somewhat since having kids. Sometimes he can't work as hard as he'd like to, he can't spend all of his hard earned money of little luxuries for himself anymore, and he has far fewer lads trips!
What we should be teaching our girls and boys is to make the most of when you are young free and single!
But on a serious note, I do get frustrated by hearing that women that have decided to be at home for a while, have given up on their careers. We are the first generation where strong, economically powerful women are now having children. Most of my mummy friends are lawyers, bankers, industry heads etc all at the top of their game when they decided to have kids. Yes, a lot of them have decided to pause their careers for now to raise their young families, largely because they have earned well during their 20's and 30's and so can afford to do so. But jump forward 10 years or so and let's see what they are doing! I have no doubt that they will all have successful careers again. Possibly not in their original field, but they are not the sort of ladies who are just going to sit at home watch This Morning that's for sure!
Hopefully time will show that we can indeed 'have it all' when you look at our adult lives as a whole and we will all be direct role models for our daughters on how to balance family life and personal achievements.
Since this debate started in the national press I have heard a lot of people get put out by the expression 'have it all' and I don't really understand why?
To me, the expression means to be able to not have to make sacrifices once you have kids. Those sacrifices could be in terms of your career but also personal free time, hobbies, exercise, travel etc.
This is why I also believe that to 'have it all', (all at the same time) isn't possible as having kids is all about sacrifice!! :D
Whether you are male or female for that matter! I know that my husband, whilst he is still working, certainly feels that he has sacrificed himself somewhat since having kids. Sometimes he can't work as hard as he'd like to, he can't spend all of his hard earned money of little luxuries for himself anymore, and he has far fewer lads trips!
What we should be teaching our girls and boys is to make the most of when you are young free and single! :lol:
But on a serious note, I do get frustrated by hearing that women that have decided to be at home for a while, have given up on their careers. We are the first generation where strong, economically powerful women are now having children. Most of my mummy friends are lawyers, bankers, industry heads etc all at the top of their game when they decided to have kids. Yes, a lot of them have decided to pause their careers for now to raise their young families, largely because they have earned well during their 20's and 30's and so can afford to do so. But jump forward 10 years or so and let's see what they are doing! I have no doubt that they will all have successful careers again. Possibly not in their original field, but they are not the sort of ladies who are just going to sit at home watch This Morning that's for sure!
Hopefully time will show that we can indeed 'have it all' when you look at our adult lives as a whole and we will all be direct role models for our daughters on how to balance family life and personal achievements.