I had and still have the same issue with my 15 year old daughter. No court order, willing father but unwilling child.
It got really bad for a while when she was 13 and we agreed as co-parents that she should stay exactly where she needs to be without the constant pressure of shifting over to dad's. Not ideal as I never got a break and do not have the finances for nice holidays but she was happy to potter around with me.
I believed this was not our daughter's issue but OURS as we created this situation (and her!). Therefore we had to modify our behaviour before ever asking her to change hers. He had insisted that she get counselling however I wanted her to stay out of it and asked for us to get counselling together. The solution was to have the therapist speak with her first and then meet with us as a couple. Her dad cancelled at the last minute but things improved gradually as he took on more of the responsibility of being a good parent and less of the blaming/ungrateful stance.
My research at that time led me to this wonderful therapist - worth a talk with her:
Clare Keogh CPsychol CSci AFBPsS
The Therapeutic Family Practice.
Chartered counselling psychologist (BPS)
Registered counselling psychologist (HCPC)
Tel: 07979864412
http://www.clarekeogh.com/
Hope this helps!
I had and still have the same issue with my 15 year old daughter. No court order, willing father but unwilling child.
It got really bad for a while when she was 13 and we agreed as co-parents that she should stay exactly where she needs to be without the constant pressure of shifting over to dad's. Not ideal as I never got a break and do not have the finances for nice holidays but she was happy to potter around with me.
I believed this was not our daughter's issue but OURS as we created this situation (and her!). Therefore we had to modify our behaviour before ever asking her to change hers. He had insisted that she get counselling however I wanted her to stay out of it and asked for us to get counselling together. The solution was to have the therapist speak with her first and then meet with us as a couple. Her dad cancelled at the last minute but things improved gradually as he took on more of the responsibility of being a good parent and less of the blaming/ungrateful stance.
My research at that time led me to this wonderful therapist - worth a talk with her:
Clare Keogh CPsychol CSci AFBPsS
The Therapeutic Family Practice.
Chartered counselling psychologist (BPS)
Registered counselling psychologist (HCPC)
Tel: 07979864412
http://www.clarekeogh.com/
Hope this helps!