by momtomum » Tue Aug 21, 2012 11:08 pm
I'm sorry for your loss.
I had two early miscarriages before my first son was born in 2004. I got pregnant when he was about a year old and had a third miscarriage around 13 weeks. It's so hard. Thankfully, I got pregnant again with my second and then (surprise!) third little boys. All of my pregnancies were complicated and high risk. In the end, we decided to adopt our fourth and soon to be fifth kids. (Yes, we'll have 5 kids in London. Crazy I know...)
The things that helped me stay preggers were accupuncture and a low dose of progesterone during the first trimester. I don't know if this is common in the UK (I was in the US at the time). All I know is that when I took progesterone, I stayed pregnant - when I didn't, I lost the pregnancies. Along with accupuncture, my chinese medicine doctor suggested some changes to my diet - mostly eliminating dairy, soy and wheat. She told me to eat a lot of soup. She said my spleen was cold. I have NO idea what that means...but I decided to bring on the soup. Of course all of that was based on what was going on in my body - but maybe a few more things to consider.
While it's not everyone's first choice, adoption has been an amazing gift to our family. I can't imagine our life without our adopted daughter. She's been such a blessing to our whole family and we can't wait to bring her sister home. For our family, we felt pretty strongly that if we couldn't get pregnant relatively naturally, we would pursue adoption. There are so many kids in the UK and around the world who need families. And as a mom of both biological and adopted kids, I can say without hesistation that the depth of love and connection I feel to my daughter is the same as to my sons. There are many paths to parenthood...most of them bumpy.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I had two early miscarriages before my first son was born in 2004. I got pregnant when he was about a year old and had a third miscarriage around 13 weeks. It's so hard. Thankfully, I got pregnant again with my second and then (surprise!) third little boys. All of my pregnancies were complicated and high risk. In the end, we decided to adopt our fourth and soon to be fifth kids. (Yes, we'll have 5 kids in London. Crazy I know...)
The things that helped me stay preggers were accupuncture and a low dose of progesterone during the first trimester. I don't know if this is common in the UK (I was in the US at the time). All I know is that when I took progesterone, I stayed pregnant - when I didn't, I lost the pregnancies. Along with accupuncture, my chinese medicine doctor suggested some changes to my diet - mostly eliminating dairy, soy and wheat. She told me to eat a lot of soup. She said my spleen was cold. I have NO idea what that means...but I decided to bring on the soup. Of course all of that was based on what was going on in my body - but maybe a few more things to consider.
While it's not everyone's first choice, adoption has been an amazing gift to our family. I can't imagine our life without our adopted daughter. She's been such a blessing to our whole family and we can't wait to bring her sister home. For our family, we felt pretty strongly that if we couldn't get pregnant relatively naturally, we would pursue adoption. There are so many kids in the UK and around the world who need families. And as a mom of both biological and adopted kids, I can say without hesistation that the depth of love and connection I feel to my daughter is the same as to my sons. There are many paths to parenthood...most of them bumpy.