by supergirl » Mon Jul 01, 2013 1:18 pm
Hi there
As other have said, I would go with my gut feeling since you are still on the probabtion period, it is fairly easy. Just be straight and fair and tell her how you feel, she what she says and if it is not good enough then just say thanks but no thanks so to speak.
More importantly: do not feel guilty about that (so long you are fair). If your gut feelings are telling it is not working now, it is likely that it won't change.
The reason I say that is I have a nanny and from the 1st second I had a very positive feeling about her and still have 10 months down the line... And that's the way it should be.
My nanny is great because she value my kids as individuals, she likes them and she is genuine and engage with them (and she listens). There are some parents who expects the moon from their nannies. They are human beings like us and therefore are also imperfects.
So long that you are a not making unreasonable demands, then it is fair to expect your nanny to engage with both your children.
The only thing I thought when I read your post is why do you let them during the settling? When I babysat when I was in my 20's, I was paralysed if the parents were there... not because I had something to hide but for fear of doing it wrong, and because I felt I was watched. If she is not extra confident, it could be just that.
I also feel that there are no "right questions to ask at an interview". Maybe she ticked all your boxes but maybe because you were concentrating on the boxes, you overlooked the feeling you both had. Maybe some nannies that you didn't hire were good but didn't ask the "right questions" because they were stressed by the interview?
Good luck, I believe it all happen for the best and you ll soon find the perfect one!
Hi there
As other have said, I would go with my gut feeling since you are still on the probabtion period, it is fairly easy. Just be straight and fair and tell her how you feel, she what she says and if it is not good enough then just say thanks but no thanks so to speak.
More importantly: do not feel guilty about that (so long you are fair). If your gut feelings are telling it is not working now, it is likely that it won't change.
The reason I say that is I have a nanny and from the 1st second I had a very positive feeling about her and still have 10 months down the line... And that's the way it should be.
My nanny is great because she value my kids as individuals, she likes them and she is genuine and engage with them (and she listens). There are some parents who expects the moon from their nannies. They are human beings like us and therefore are also imperfects.
So long that you are a not making unreasonable demands, then it is fair to expect your nanny to engage with both your children.
The only thing I thought when I read your post is why do you let them during the settling? When I babysat when I was in my 20's, I was paralysed if the parents were there... not because I had something to hide but for fear of doing it wrong, and because I felt I was watched. If she is not extra confident, it could be just that.
I also feel that there are no "right questions to ask at an interview". Maybe she ticked all your boxes but maybe because you were concentrating on the boxes, you overlooked the feeling you both had. Maybe some nannies that you didn't hire were good but didn't ask the "right questions" because they were stressed by the interview?
Good luck, I believe it all happen for the best and you ll soon find the perfect one!