by hopeless » Wed Mar 11, 2015 8:59 am
I never thought I'd be doing this.. but I really need some advice.
Long story short, my husband and I have been together for a long time and have a beautiful baby girl. We have moved around quite a bit, and his successful career, as a result, has suffered - since it was always with my job that we moved. Right now he has been unemployed for over a year... And he is so depressed.. Very depressed..
Our relationship has changed a lot of course. As his motivation is completely gone, I am doing it all.. Work, home, baby.. everything.. with no appreciation. His kind and sweet temperament has changed - and now he is just mean and disrespectful. I don't recognize him one bit..
He was taking medication but as of last week he decided that he no longer needs them - because he is 'fine'.. Which couldn't be further from the truth - but even if it was accurate, I know you can't just stop taking them - you have to ease out of these types of medication.
So... I don't know what to do. Right now I am not even sure if he is looking for a job - his motivation being next to nothing. I am tired - exhausted really, physically but more importantly, emotionally. I've tried everything. He is not the person I have married. For the longest time, I felt guilty for his situation - since it was because of me that we moved.. but now I don't know what to feel anymore.. My strength is all gone. I am trying to hold on to something - anything - for our future, but it just seems further and further away..
We went to see a couples therapist - but truthfully, I don't think that's the answer - our problems are because of his depression - he doesn't act rational one bit. Our good days are incredible, but our bad days..
He was supposed to see a psychiatrist next week - but now that he has decided he is fine, I don't even know if will..
What do I do? I feel so hopeless in this situation. I love him more than anything - but I need to think of my baby and myself...
I never thought I'd be doing this.. but I really need some advice.
Long story short, my husband and I have been together for a long time and have a beautiful baby girl. We have moved around quite a bit, and his successful career, as a result, has suffered - since it was always with my job that we moved. Right now he has been unemployed for over a year... And he is so depressed.. Very depressed..
Our relationship has changed a lot of course. As his motivation is completely gone, I am doing it all.. Work, home, baby.. everything.. with no appreciation. His kind and sweet temperament has changed - and now he is just mean and disrespectful. I don't recognize him one bit..
He was taking medication but as of last week he decided that he no longer needs them - because he is 'fine'.. Which couldn't be further from the truth - but even if it was accurate, I know you can't just stop taking them - you have to ease out of these types of medication.
So... I don't know what to do. Right now I am not even sure if he is looking for a job - his motivation being next to nothing. I am tired - exhausted really, physically but more importantly, emotionally. I've tried everything. He is not the person I have married. For the longest time, I felt guilty for his situation - since it was because of me that we moved.. but now I don't know what to feel anymore.. My strength is all gone. I am trying to hold on to something - anything - for our future, but it just seems further and further away..
We went to see a couples therapist - but truthfully, I don't think that's the answer - our problems are because of his depression - he doesn't act rational one bit. Our good days are incredible, but our bad days..
He was supposed to see a psychiatrist next week - but now that he has decided he is fine, I don't even know if will..
What do I do? I feel so hopeless in this situation. I love him more than anything - but I need to think of my baby and myself...