Postby SFMC » Thu Apr 05, 2012 10:46 pm
I am quite stunned that a post complaining about the customer service of a restaurant has turned into a rather judgemental attack on the original poster's parenting, and even the state of the nation's children!?! I'm not of the mind that children should be seen rather than heard (but yikes they are loud sometimes!!). I think as parents we seem to always be judged (on anything and everything), and perhaps we also do a lot of judging!
It seems the issue has turned from poor customer service to blaming the mother, blaming the child in some weird roundabout way and how one should parent. As a parent I am rather tired of 'blame the mother' syndrome but perhaps that is for another thread. We all know how hard and complex parenting can be. To address some other responses, I personally feel that children are a part of everyday life and should be able to participate in many public and cultural aspects of it, for better and for worse. I don't think the world revolves around me and my child, nor do I think children can and should do everything and go everywhere by any means. But there are appropriate spaces and times to do things with your child. I think there are far more places for adults to wine, dine and conduct business meetings (or read or be on the laptop etc) than there are for families to do things together. I think lunch at a local restaurant that provides highchairs and a children's menu is one such appropriate venue to say the least! But now before I digress further...
It is my opinion that part of owning a business is to accept accountability for the action's of your staff and part of taking care of your customers is acknowledging their experiences within your establishment. To bring things back to the original point/post, the owner of the business took the time to put a long post on here , but never truly acknowledging the experience of the original post (whether or not it is "true" - which isn't the issue) or attempt or show the desire to acknowledge the feelings and experience of that customer. Sometimes listening and acknowledging goes a long way.
A 2 year old is still learning and developing their emotional responses to the world. They often do not have the tools to deal with their emotions. This is a long learning process and outbursts happen. However, the manager, waiting staff and even the owner, have the tools, experience and opportunity to handle the public - this is part of their business along with food!
"The customer is always right" while not ultimately true , businesses tend to operate best and do well when they respect that as a philosophy.
It sounds like they were dismissive three times - they sent her out, she came back to address the situation and complain, and was met with a dismissive attitude and then she came on here and the owner's response came across as rather dismissive (well he didn't really address the issue).
A little bit of acknowledgement and listening goes a long way towards customer satisfaction. Even if ANY child is throwing a huge temper tantrum that somehow crosses the line (this differs for people)
the WAY they have handled her SINCE the incident does not show any amount of desire to deal with ALL customers in a conscientious or sympathetic way. Ultimately word of mouth and reputation will make or break a restaurant.
As far 'danger' and damage of posting a negative opinion, to pretend that it is a moral obligation to not speak your opinion publicly is to deny what is happening all across the world in most facets of life with social media.
People are using this forum to state both positive and negative reviews and actively seek opinions on various things. Any rational person knows this review is an individual experience and was written in anger - she in fact states she is fuming. I think you are overestimating the impact of this, but it will be, and probably should be, taken into account (along with other reviews - positive and negative).