Postby dudette » Mon Jul 22, 2019 6:38 am
This is a really tricky one as to do anything about it now you’re going to have to look like the bad guy and you don’t want it to affect your relationship with him. It’s totally outrageous that your husband asked him without consulting you and your FIL may be surprised too. I’m inclined to say you should do it just this once for the sake of family harmony but then you create an expectation for next year and if you don’t ask him again he may think he did something wrong. Maybe you could find a long weekend to go away somewhere with him instead to soften the blow and this would be more of a one-off. In any case I think your husband needs to do the explaining! You won’t enjoy the holiday if you’re feeling resentful about him being there so you need to get it sorted.