Postby Expatacular » Wed Nov 22, 2023 8:39 am
We were in this position and chose Thomas's. I can't speak first hand about the other schools but can share what I know from first-hand experience of T's and second hand (via friends) of B and H.
First off, they are all great schools. I don't think there is a mistake to be made here. It's about priorities. If you haven't recently toured all three schools, I'd recommend going again. You'll get a gut feel and you should follow it. We have been very happy with T's. It is not a hothouse but I think it is very academically rigorous and comprehensive. If you are seeking an overtly academically pushy school, you should look elsewhere. That's not the ethos or the priority of the school. That said, it is definitely academic and they have the resources and ability to challenge the children who are ready for it, and to support those who need additional help. To me, this is probably the biggest difference between T's and B/H. I have always felt like they really know my children, immediately tell where they need additional academic challenge and/or support, and then proactively offer it. One of my children is very academically able and has always been challenged to achieve their full potential. My understanding from talking to friends with kids at the other local schools is that they don't always feel that the schools provide this. In terms of human resources as well as co-curricular support, and exposure to a range of topics/interests, I can't imagine a school could do more than T's.
The only other thing I'd add is that we have many friends who chose B/H for their children and have been very happy there. A small number of them have decided to pull their kids out after Year 2 and send them to a local independent school because they didn't feel their children were getting enough academic challenge and/or support within the schools. It's anecdotal, and not universally true, but I thought it was worth mentioning in the context of your question.