Postby lissalorin » Tue Aug 30, 2011 11:19 am
I am a lawyer, and was a practicing judge in the United States. I'm not giving you legal advice now, just friendly advice. Do not deal with this man without proper representation. As said earlier, document everything and keep copies.
Take the high road girl. Restrain yourself from telling his wife. As said earlier, don't waste your energy there.
Firstly -
Focus on the health of your baby (which is feeling all these anxious emotions along with you right now). Go to baby yoga, and get baby massages, and eat healthy organic foods to nurture the precious life inside you.
Secondly -
Retain a lawyer who is a pit bull and go for the gusto. This support financially is not for you, it is for the baby. There is nothing he can do to fight this, and he will have to pay money. He will need to tell his wife in the end, and it will be more appropriate for him to fess up. Do not go for a lump sum. You will have this child for 18 years, and he should pay the entire time and if his income rises, then so will his support payments.
Thirdly -
Stay strong. Stay classy. You deserve better. Love does not hurt. I'm sorry to say this, but if he did this to his current wife, he will do the same to you if you two end up together. Cheaters like the thrill of the chase. Period. Nuff said.
Keep your chin up! xx
Darling, hold your head high. You are a strong woman, and can do this on your own without a man.