Postby Alicky » Wed Dec 28, 2011 3:07 pm
Hi
I'm really very sorry to hear about your situation and I hope you had a good Christmas despite all you have been through. You must be excited about the baby though?
I do agree with the previous post responses - I think it is important you tell his wife, as I feel it will also help you move on. Obviously, the impact on him will be huge, but you need to be strong. He is stringing both of you along, and until he realises he can't treat people like this and get away with it, he will continue to do it. Once you see her, and see that he is married I feel it will help you see him for who he really is - for ages you've seen him as a faithful boyfriend, and it's a huge shock to find out otherwise but I feel a bit like you are deceiving yourself by meeting up with him etc, and not talking about the baby. As mush as you miss him, you need to look after yourself and your baby and acknowledge how he has treated you. You will be doing his wife a huge favour too, and it's better that you are honest with her than let her find out about it herself (he will clearly never tell her!!).
Anyway, take care and I hope the new year brings you a lot of happiness with your new baby.