Thanks for the recommendation - we'd certainly love to try help you. The site is free to join and you can post questions and we find locals to help you...it might be helpful to get a feel for the areas and many people using our website have found it helpful. You can also post general chat if you just need others to help with advice.
Also a couple of things that might help you which I've learnt/discovered. The first is to jump ahead and think about secondary schools. Primary seem so important when you're choosing but try to give some consideration as usually where there are good secondary schools you find good primaries but the same doesn't work in reverse.
Secondly look at the commute as it really can make a difference to pleasure on both sides! A very helpful website is
www.commutefrom.co.uk which shows which stations work in terms of timings. You might already be sure about it but it's very handy and saves looking at all the train companies.
Another helpful site if you're looking at Herts for schools is
www.www.schoolguruhertfordshire.co.uk and also another site which is good is
www.surreymummy.com.
Anyway I hope we can help - our website is
www.lifeafterlondon.com and we will do all we can to ease the confusion you must feel.
Bee