Etiquette of buying presents for new born twins Post Reply

[Azilal10]

Hi all

I am faced, for the first time ever, with the conundrum of buying "new baby" presents for twins. What is the general etiquette here - do I buy two of the same thing because they are twins (and, for what it's worth, the same sex - girls) or do I buy them something different because they are individuals?

Any advice most appreciated!

Thanks
Suzi
xx

[stayathomemuminsw11]

When a really good friend of mine had boy/girl twins, I bought them a joint present of a personalized framed print for their room from notonthehighstreet.com

Had it been for, for want of a better description, a less good friend, and I'd wanted to get more of a token thing, I'd probably have got two different items as lots of people don't want matchy matchy stuff for twins while I highly doubt anyone would mind having different things for twins even if they were planning on matching outfits etc sometimes if you know what I mean!

[supergirl]

IME twins are individuals even if same sex. I would buy something similar but in different colours for ex or a "bigger" present gir 2 or 2 different cuddly toys.

[NYE31]

Oops, I recently bought a gift for twin boys, non idenditical & I bought them the same thing each, oh well, I guess their mother can change them for something else if she doesn't like them

[Bluebutterfly]

I'm not sure that there is an etiquette for newborn twins - when mine were born we had some identical presents, some which were the same but, for example, a different colour, some things for them to share - at that stage it is just lovely to get presents, and I wouldn't have thought it odd for them not to have a present each. When they are older i think it is possibly more important for them to have an individual present each, so if you decide to go for something that they will keep/play with for many years to come then maybe get one each, but anything baby related they should be fine to share! Just one other consideration - I decided not to dress my identical boys identically for most of the time, but if they were given 2 lovely outfits that were the same I did now and again. Some people feel quite strongly about whether they want them dressed the same or not, so maybe don't get clothes if you're not sure. I'm sure they will love whatever you decide on!

[twice_as_nice]

I don't think there's an etiquette!

Depends on the parents really - what are they like? I would never dress my twin girls in the same thing but I do know of a mum who would dress her boys in exactly the same thing to the point that if one of them spit up on his outfit, she changed both of them!!!!

I also know of a mum of ID twins who insists on the same present for both!!!

So, I guess try and figure out what you think the mum/dad would like (i.e. same thing or different thing) and then go with that...

[LovestruckInteriors]

Suzi have you looked at THE KIDS RULE? Perfect present for siblings, you can have it personalised to make it extra special and a family heirloom in the making! Amy x www.lovestruckinteriors.com/kids-rule

[marmalade250]

Have you looked at Raggy-Taggy's, they are great gift for new born's! They come in different colours so you could get one for each. the gingham fabric ones are nice for summer baby's. You can get these on line or pop into our store (Marmalade250)on Battersea Park RD, where we have them! Happy shopping

[twinmum]

When my twins were babies I used to like dressing them in the same thing but in different colours, so for example one in red dungarees and a blue top and the other in blue dungarees with a red top. This was partly as they looked as cute as little buttons and partly as after a night with baby twins I only had enough brain power to come up with one outfit decision

If you were thinking more along the lines of teddies etc. then again I would get something 'same same but different'. My boys still like their bear and bunny that they can tell go together (same brand) but they are more definitely 'theirs' than other cuddly toys where they were bought 2 of the same thing.

[t_w_i_n]

Was about to post almost exactly the same as twinmum! Jellycat do great toys that you can get two toys the same size but different or other lovely gifts we were given included books, two titles by the same author for example. Really cute hooded bath towels was another popular present - you get given so many clothes it's nice to have something different. x

[calgary]

With my boy twins I preferred individual gifts - be it same thing different colour or completely different. However, it really is the thought that counts. Also consider giving a casserole,ready-made meals etc - in the early days those were such a welcome treat! (Invariably, we ended up with far too much of everything for my two for their first year.)

[Tirednotovertired]

yet another twin mama responding but I loved LOVED the same presents but different colours. Two little jelly cat rabbits in pink and white would be PERFECT and won't break the bank x

[Azilal10]

Hi everyone, really really appreciate everyones' feedback and some ideas in there that I defintiely didn't think of! My friends are based in LA so some ideas are more practical than others in terms of postage (totally agree with the casserole idea but might not be appreciated so much once it's travelled 10000 miles ha ha!).

Think I might go for the jelly cat/towel idea. My sister bought both my children a different jelly cat doll when they were born and they were both a big hit!

Thank you all so much, fabulous to have such friendly advice to hand!

xxx