Nanny watch! Post Reply

[MrsNanny]

30 minutes unattended - that is so shocking, and so scary. I completely agree that this in unacceptable and completely unprofessional.

I just feel sad for the poor boy, if I was there I would have given him a big cuddle!

[Loretta]

Well done on doing this, I agree that all the parents should know that.

But, everytime, there is a post like this, it's like a fight between nannies and mums ... No nanny is perfect but trust me, how many times I have helped kids trapped, stuck in a playground or in a playgroup because their mums were busy on the phones or chatting up with friends. No one is perfect.

[shocked]

I dont understand why nannies get upset. Ktpearce was talking about this nanny in particular not all of them. It is obvious, to anyone with some common sense, that there are good and bad professionals in every trade.

On the other hand, unlike many mums, nannies are getting paid, often a very good salary to do a job and should be sacked if they don't do it. And at the end of the day, it is in the interest of the children to have a mum, even if she is crap at it (unless of course she is a junkie, alcoholic, etc...), whereas it is not really in their interest to have a bad nanny. I think we all see the difference, right?

[falconmum]

Reading all this ...I am just glad that my LO goes to a daycare nursery.
I would rather that he be in a regulated safe enviornment while I am at work than be with nannies or people who hold personal responsibility for his care but may or may not be bothered about his welfare .
I could monitor them at home (nannycams) but who is to say what happens in parks etc.
I think reporting to relevant parents is the right thing to do . They have a right to know and question people they are paying to look after their child !

Its not to offend the nanny brigade but to secure the welfare of the little ones ...

[kcai]

However, what I will say is that I reported a strange man to the police a fortnight ago because he was sitting, alone (i.e. without a charge), on a bench IN the playground on Wandsworth Common, engaging in conversation with the children in the playground. My nanny (whilst distracted, looking after two of my other children) noticed him and took my eldest child away from the man. The man then became abusive to my nanny.

Just wanted to thank you for posting this, as I often take my children to this playground!

[Mumstwo]

Just wanted to say thank you so much for all the support for my post. Shocked and I are certainly singing from the same song sheet!

Also GES77 thanks for your post, this is exactly why I decided to post my experience in the first place.

Thanks again x

[calgary]

I think I did the right thing

I think you did too! Please don't ever not step in .... If any caring parent is concerned about a situation, then that situation warrants intervention IMO

xx

I whole heartedly agree with emmakl on this and would add that it should make no difference whether it's a nanny or parent/family member. We've all a responsibility to protect those less able to protect themselves in our society and I applaud KTpearce and anyone else who has been brave enough to step into such a situation to help out. It's when we stand by and do nothing that we really do a disservice.

There have been times when my boys have found themselves in a tough spot and I would certainly hope someone would be there to help them out if need be, as I would do the same.

[MGMidget]

Thanks KTPearce and Emmaki for highlighting two examples of bad nannying and two ways to deal with it. I would have wanted to know if I was the parent of either of those children. I have had nannies and au pairs too. They can be good or bad just like nursery workers and anyone in any other job. Any method of alerting parents to bad practice that has been witnessed is a good thing in my view. I wouldn't think it was any better if it had been a parent responsible for the child in those situations rather than a nanny but when it is a nanny it is easier to put an end to the situation with disciplinary action or sacking. And judging by those descriptions I think regardless of whether they were 'one offs' or a sign of regular neglect I think I would still think disciplinary action such as a verbal warning was warranted.

[Radical]

The same thing this morning in Clapham common playground, the one opposite grandison road, a blond little boy, around 2 years old, had his Phillipine nanny with him, or I can say on his own and his nanny with her group of chatters!
I'm a nanny as well, but I wouldn't ignore a child like that!
So the nanny had long dark her in a pony tail and a pink coat, and the little boy had very blond hair and dressed in blue! Hope someone will recognise them!
It's such a shame that some nannies do this job only for money, without caring for children!