Postby Londontownlady » Mon Jul 15, 2019 7:55 am
This is such a big ask and commitment. Slightly unfair too considering you have two you kids to look after yourself. Life must be pretty busy for you as it is, without the Additional responsibility of having to look after a teenager. There is so much to think of, the other posts highlighted just some of the points you need to discuss before agreeing. And Yes of course family has to help, there has to be some sort of scale on what is acceptable though. I also believe that if you do end up accepting, there is not going back unless your niece does something quite bad.
You will not physically allow yourself to end her studies because she keeps being late home or is on her phone at all hours, you will be classed as petty/controlling. My parents took my cousin in because she wanted to complete a summer course, she was 21 and I was 17. I thought it was a great idea as I got on really well with her, my parents didn’t even think about it twice as she used to stay with us some weekends anyway and has always been so nice and sweet. Long story short, she ended falling for her teacher (who was himself only 22), broke up with her bf. Which I think it’s pretty normal at that age but in this case my cousin’s family and her ex’s family were really long time friends and this break up resulted in that friendship ending suddenly. Of course my mum was then blamed for the ‘affair’ as she should have kept a closer eye on her.
