Postby firsttimerSW11 » Mon Apr 11, 2022 10:52 pm
Your question and your motivation for telling her seem to be two very different things.
You've been hurt by this guy and you want to get back at him. You are trying to justify telling her by having a group of strangers on the internet tell you that she'd want to know and you'd be doing the right thing by telling her.
Would she want to know? Who knows. But you don't really care do you, she's just the unwitting pawn in your attempt to get back at him and trying to justify to yourself that she'd want to know.
His wife has done nothing wrong and it's not your place to tell her.
This guy is an asshole, there's no doubt about it. Sorry you were misfortunate enough to meet someone like this and that you got hurt. But wrecking another woman's marriage isn't up to you. Her husband seems well able to do this on his own.
Be the bigger person and walk away. Leave his wife - the innocent party in all of this - out of it.