Postby Elsie2023 » Tue May 07, 2024 8:17 am
Tempting as it may be, it’s a short-sighted solution if it damages the trust in your relationship. Try gently amping up the talk-time with your daughter rather than probing or tackling it head on. I found laying next to my daughter at night as she was falling asleep and chatting, divulging a little thing here or there that might be troubling me and hearing her views on it opened up the relationship enough for her to slowly open up and start talking, and then the floodgates opened and and we were able to help her navigate some tricky stuff. If your child fears loss of phone privilege or that you will react negatively to phone issues, they will likely equate that to social-suicide so will do everything to hide issues from you. And let’s face it, they will outsmart us on tech every time! If you snooped, you’re likely to see all the benign messages within WhatsApp chat and miss all the juicy stuff because that’s in Snapchat which obviously disappears. And before you say they don’t have Snapchat, I bet they do and they’re great at hiding it. They also use the messaging within apps like Pinterest to hide things from prying eyes. To truly help, I believe the approach needs to be based on trust and openness and your daughter needs to know you are her sounding board and guide and that there’s no threat of what she tells you going any further unless someone’s in harm’s way.