Sorry to hear you are feeling so lonely. It is possible your husband cannot do much about his working hours, regardless whether he wants to or not - and it sounds like he provides a good living, for you all to enjoy so there is a pay off I'm afraid. If changing that dynamic is not going to happen, would you consider a part time job, volunteer, join some groups - find something to give you your own goals and purpose? There is lots you could get involved with, which would widen your circle of friends, contacts and at the same time, you could be doing something for yourself, your family, and be a great role model for your children in ways you perhaps hadn't thought of before.
I am a working mother, and I love it. I don't know what I'd do if I didn't have that - and no, I wouldn't spend all day cooking, cleaning and arranging kids activities! Life has much to offer - I hope you find your thing!