Husband becoming a politics bore and its getting embarrassing Post Reply

[deckchair]

Not sure if there are any others who have passionate other halves but my husband is becoming an increasingly huge bore about politics, especially on a night out in company and it really embarrasses me. We have lots of friends who are happy to wax lyrical about politics but on a recent class night out with people we don't know very well I could see eyes rolling. How do I get him to stop. Have asked him to dial it down and I try to steer the conversation away from politics in company but it isn't working and stressing me out. 

[Terrier_London]

I think many of the problems we have in the UK are because people don't take an interest in politics.

So I rather sympathise with your husband on this. If only we had more people passionate about politics we perhaps wouldn't have suffered Brexit, or have people that think Johnson was a good PM because he was "a bit of a laugh". 

So stick up for your husband and look down on those that roll their eye at him. At least he cares. 

[empfindlich]

I agree! I used to spend a lot of time in Europe for work and there were always long evenings discussing the politics of the place we were visiting. Nobody was ashamed. In this country you can barely mention politics, even in educated company, without eyes rolling. It's not healthy and I blame Murdoch and his ilk.

[Bunnyboots]

I agree with the two posters above. Politics is important and people should take an interest in what’s going

[Pomegranate]

I'm afraid that I am with you deckchair. I don't want to listen talk about politics on a night out and especially not with people that I am supposed to be passing the time of day with at a school event. Not sure what you can do about it apart from suggest to him that you don't want to be in his company if he is going to bang on about it.
 

[muddyboots]

I sympathise with the OP. Of course there should be discussions of politics, but not at a dinner party unless everyone is particularly interested.

It’s extremely tedious when men go on about the strategies and latest developments in the Ukraine war .. don’t want to hear about Putin unless I’m watching the news .

Everyone has their own interests and I could go on all day about women’s rights but it doesn’t mean I’ll bore people about it when socialising ….

[Chattier]

These situations can be a clue that its time to expand the friends groups to include those who enjoy more intellectual debates, including politics or anything but in more depth. Subjects shouldn't be taboo.
Rolling eyes is rather contemptuous surely.
What were the others discussing, perhaps he found it a little boring too?

[juliantenniscoach]

Tricky in a social setting, but it beats house prices, how tall my child is etc etc.  I think we need more reasoned political debate, even if it is passionate, not less.

[NVG]

Why don’t you suggest he sets up a politics discussion club? I used to join together with some friends every few weeks and we’d discuss an issue of topical interest. It works like a book club so you take it in turns to go to each others’ houses and one person picks the topic in advance and maybe sends out some articles on the subject to get everyone’s thought processes engaged.

I agree that not everyone finds politics interesting but those of us who do find it fascinating, so he just needs to find a tribe where he can vent and not bore other people who’d rather talk about schools or mortgages!